Steve Bogner's Journey as Ex-Spouse of a Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor Creator of Support for Partners Part 2

Episode 4 May 19, 2022 00:22:18
Steve Bogner's Journey as Ex-Spouse of a Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor Creator of Support for Partners Part 2
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Steve Bogner's Journey as Ex-Spouse of a Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor Creator of Support for Partners Part 2

May 19 2022 | 00:22:18

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Rachel Stone

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Steve Bogner is the creator of http://supportforpartners.org/. He was married to a survivor for many years and to get support he created an online group due to the lack of resources out there for partners.

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.200 --> 00:00:03.319 Hey, this is Rachel recovery. We are back with Steve and he's going 2 00:00:03.359 --> 00:00:10.000 to tell us the rest of his story about being a significant other of partners 3 00:00:10.080 --> 00:00:20.399 was who have been sectually abused. We've talked to indsociation. How much regression 4 00:00:20.760 --> 00:00:24.879 have you seen or, like how is that commonly talked about? Like their 5 00:00:24.960 --> 00:00:29.800 partners regressing to like the age that they were abused and they come out and 6 00:00:29.960 --> 00:00:33.679 they act like Ei. There you know, however, old when the abuse 7 00:00:33.759 --> 00:00:39.439 happened? Yeah, I haven't. That's been raised a couple of times racial 8 00:00:39.520 --> 00:00:48.159 but not a lot. What is more common is when a survivors kids get 9 00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:51.719 to be the same age they were when the abuse happened. HMM, that 10 00:00:51.840 --> 00:00:59.759 seems to trigger the onset of flashbacks and issues and because if that your kid, 11 00:00:59.960 --> 00:01:03.200 right that you love, is now the same age you were when you 12 00:01:03.320 --> 00:01:08.079 were first abused and you know you love your kid so much and you don't 13 00:01:08.120 --> 00:01:11.519 want to see anything bad happen to them, and I think that that starts 14 00:01:11.640 --> 00:01:15.159 then to stir up a lot of the same issues. Is that the survivor 15 00:01:15.280 --> 00:01:22.280 went through and that more common trigger, I think. But the regression, 16 00:01:22.480 --> 00:01:29.159 I haven't seen that reference to a whole lot. Okay, I mean it's 17 00:01:29.239 --> 00:01:34.159 just something I've had people comment on me about and I've also I've heard other 18 00:01:34.280 --> 00:01:48.319 people's talk about the regressing. So so I was curious I see what are 19 00:01:48.439 --> 00:01:52.120 like. What are some like big issues that you what are like? Maybe 20 00:01:52.280 --> 00:02:00.640 the top couple issues you see within relationships with sexual abuse? Yeah, some 21 00:02:00.760 --> 00:02:06.719 of the top ones intimacy interruests, which I've talked about. You know, 22 00:02:07.040 --> 00:02:10.719 it was there and then it went away or it was never quite there but 23 00:02:12.000 --> 00:02:16.800 it was kind of ignored. So intimacy and trust issues are big. Another 24 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:28.280 big issue is infidelity. So you know, maybe your partner of a survivor 25 00:02:28.360 --> 00:02:32.199 and that survivor, behind your back, without you knowing, is on dating 26 00:02:32.240 --> 00:02:38.000 sites looking the hook up with other people. That is fairly common. The 27 00:02:38.159 --> 00:02:45.960 infidelity, whether it's actually carried through or not, you know, and that's 28 00:02:46.039 --> 00:02:47.919 really confusing for a partner because like, well, you can go have sex 29 00:02:49.000 --> 00:02:53.199 with complete strangers practically, but you can't have sex with me, who you 30 00:02:53.280 --> 00:02:55.719 know. I've been your husband for the last ten years. So what gives? 31 00:02:55.879 --> 00:03:00.680 You know, people don't understand that. It's another one thing, though, 32 00:03:00.800 --> 00:03:07.319 is the the infidelity anger management issues is big. You know, when 33 00:03:08.240 --> 00:03:13.120 when partners start recovery. A lot of times there can be a lot of 34 00:03:13.159 --> 00:03:15.400 anger that gets stirred up and a lot of anger that have to come out 35 00:03:15.960 --> 00:03:22.879 because the abuser put so much anger into them as kids. That anger comes 36 00:03:22.919 --> 00:03:29.120 out and it can be very missy, particularly if you know you have kids 37 00:03:29.199 --> 00:03:32.199 yourself. Right, if you're a family with a couple of kids and now 38 00:03:32.599 --> 00:03:39.360 mom or dad has all this anger and socialized relation and you know just happened 39 00:03:39.400 --> 00:03:46.680 overnight, then that can be another really big issue. Those are sort of 40 00:03:46.719 --> 00:03:55.199 the top ones that seem to recur a lot. Okay, houses impacted, 41 00:03:55.520 --> 00:04:05.680 like parenting and like you know, with both partners, like both the abuse 42 00:04:08.080 --> 00:04:13.599 survivors and the and their partners. Well, you know, on a good 43 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:18.839 day parenting is tough, you know is having kids is not for the faint 44 00:04:18.879 --> 00:04:27.319 of heart. Having kids when there's stress in the relationship is is even tougher. 45 00:04:29.279 --> 00:04:35.240 I think kids don't understand right part of us because we try to hide 46 00:04:35.240 --> 00:04:39.759 it from them. Part of it is because maybe they're not ready to hear 47 00:04:40.319 --> 00:04:46.959 about the the real causes of what's going on. The kids see this and 48 00:04:46.120 --> 00:04:50.680 it impacts them. You might see it impacted in their behavior. In school 49 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:59.079 you might see them favoring one parent or the other. You know, if 50 00:05:00.879 --> 00:05:08.120 if the survivor is the mom and maybe she's off being promiscuous, then the 51 00:05:08.240 --> 00:05:11.879 kids look at that and say that's just not right, and so they are 52 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:16.079 sort of driven away from mom over to dad. or I've seeing, you 53 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:25.240 know, cases to where the survivor, because of whatever reasons, I'm not 54 00:05:25.319 --> 00:05:28.959 sure what reasons, but they might convince the kids that, you know, 55 00:05:29.199 --> 00:05:32.680 everything that's happening. That's bad with me is because your father, your father's 56 00:05:33.040 --> 00:05:38.560 at fault, for example, and then the kids driven away from her, 57 00:05:38.759 --> 00:05:43.160 from the partner, over to the survivor. The kids get caught up in 58 00:05:43.279 --> 00:05:46.560 this. You know, anytime this relationship issue, the kids get caught up 59 00:05:46.639 --> 00:05:50.399 in it and it's not easy. So, you know, the other thing 60 00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:58.240 that happens to is, you know, divorce. Divorce happens, and when 61 00:05:58.680 --> 00:06:03.759 the parents get divorced it can be really tough on the kids. Yeah, 62 00:06:04.040 --> 00:06:13.560 no, I mean that's also very true. How have you seen it impact, 63 00:06:13.879 --> 00:06:20.360 you know, the health of partners? And there's survivers, like from 64 00:06:20.439 --> 00:06:27.279 your perspective, you know, I can't talk so much for the survivors but 65 00:06:28.160 --> 00:06:34.680 for partners. You know, I do know that there are physical issues in 66 00:06:35.000 --> 00:06:41.519 anytime you're under a lot of stress, and we know this what it regardless 67 00:06:41.560 --> 00:06:46.040 of what stress is, any time that there's the stress, it does impact 68 00:06:46.120 --> 00:06:53.959 your health. You can drive some isolation because, you know, maybe you 69 00:06:54.040 --> 00:06:59.439 become more isolated from friends and family because of behavioral problems or relationship problems, 70 00:06:59.600 --> 00:07:03.920 or maybe you just don't have the energy. You know, I'm fairly introverted, 71 00:07:04.040 --> 00:07:08.680 so you know, if I don't have any energy to go out and 72 00:07:09.319 --> 00:07:15.079 be social with people, you know that's not a good thing. But you 73 00:07:15.160 --> 00:07:21.680 know, it can drive that sort of isolation. When when people are able 74 00:07:21.800 --> 00:07:26.959 to work through the issues or they move on, either through, you know, 75 00:07:27.079 --> 00:07:32.879 dissolving the relationship or divorce. I know in my case my health improved, 76 00:07:33.680 --> 00:07:40.319 my outlook on life of improved a lot and I've seen that, you 77 00:07:40.399 --> 00:07:45.240 know, for other partners to and it's just whatever you would think, you 78 00:07:45.319 --> 00:07:48.720 know, would be the result of normal stress on a person. I think 79 00:07:48.759 --> 00:08:01.279 it's the same thing. Yeah, how has have you seen this impact finances 80 00:08:01.480 --> 00:08:09.879 as partners? It's yeah, I can have quite an impact, you know, 81 00:08:09.000 --> 00:08:16.279 if the family relies on both partners being able to work and provide a 82 00:08:16.399 --> 00:08:24.040 lot of times when a survivor is having trouble, performance at work suffers or 83 00:08:24.480 --> 00:08:28.519 in the ability to hold down a job suffers. Think of, you know, 84 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:35.279 the impact of any sort of you know, challenges like that and how 85 00:08:35.320 --> 00:08:41.559 they lead to problems with performance or work and that that happens. And so, 86 00:08:43.279 --> 00:08:46.360 you know, I've read stories of people having to sell their house and 87 00:08:46.440 --> 00:08:52.200 move into an apartment or move out of the apartment and live in their cars. 88 00:08:52.440 --> 00:08:58.879 I've seen that example to the other thing, though, that I've seen 89 00:08:58.200 --> 00:09:03.600 is, you know, some survivors their way of coping is to be perfect, 90 00:09:03.960 --> 00:09:09.360 right, it is perfection, and so they work a lot and some 91 00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:16.720 of them are like executives and companies, and you know, when you're working 92 00:09:16.759 --> 00:09:22.960 a lot in you're trying to sort of use that as a way to cover 93 00:09:22.159 --> 00:09:28.679 up all the abuse that's bubbling under the surface. Then you know that can 94 00:09:28.720 --> 00:09:33.080 make people very successful at work and sort of make them work a holics. 95 00:09:33.120 --> 00:09:41.799 I guess. Yeah, different ways to cope. How would you say this 96 00:09:41.960 --> 00:09:50.200 has impacted like the extended family? There can be some pretty dramatic effects on 97 00:09:50.279 --> 00:09:56.240 extended family, you know, particularly if the parents were the abusers or the 98 00:09:56.320 --> 00:10:05.279 grandparents. Answer uncle people like that. When those are the abusers, then 99 00:10:05.799 --> 00:10:13.000 there can real be really big impacts on family dynamics. You know, I've 100 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:20.720 read cases where you know the step dad was the abuser and then the partner 101 00:10:20.480 --> 00:10:24.559 learned from the survivor that stepped ad the abuser and then they're like, you 102 00:10:24.639 --> 00:10:28.679 know, how do I how do I hang out with this person who I 103 00:10:28.799 --> 00:10:31.399 used to be okay with? How do I hang out with them now without, 104 00:10:33.159 --> 00:10:35.879 you know, wanting to beat them into a pulp because they abused my 105 00:10:35.679 --> 00:10:41.399 partner? Basically, stuff like that. Or you see people cutting certain pieces 106 00:10:41.440 --> 00:10:46.600 of the family just out right. I'm just cutting that part of the family 107 00:10:46.679 --> 00:10:52.919 out of our lives, no contact and in that can be pretty traumatic, 108 00:10:54.200 --> 00:11:00.080 I guess. And you know there's also the push and pull right. So 109 00:11:01.919 --> 00:11:05.320 you know, I want the kids to experience their grandparents, but I don't 110 00:11:05.399 --> 00:11:09.200 want them to be around their grandparents because of the abuse that happened, and 111 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:16.879 so it can be kind of confusing. But you know, anything that impacts 112 00:11:18.759 --> 00:11:22.759 you know those relationships is a big deal and you know if they're if the 113 00:11:24.399 --> 00:11:28.559 abuser was in, you know, the families, and that makes it even 114 00:11:28.559 --> 00:11:33.600 a bigger deal and more times than not. It generally is. It's sure 115 00:11:33.720 --> 00:11:41.759 can be. Yeah, yeah, how how have you seen this impact like 116 00:11:41.120 --> 00:11:52.480 partners community in their social life? Generally, it's detrimental, you know, 117 00:11:52.519 --> 00:11:58.919 when their stress in a relationship or one partner is acting out. You know 118 00:11:58.080 --> 00:12:03.320 usually, honestly, if the survivor acting out, it can put stress on 119 00:12:03.399 --> 00:12:11.639 social relationships. So, you know, maybe you stop getting invited to events 120 00:12:11.799 --> 00:12:18.840 from your friends because of your past behavior that was problematic, or maybe you 121 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:24.000 just don't want to go be around people because you don't have the energy for 122 00:12:24.120 --> 00:12:30.080 it. It can, you know, it can have a pretty drastic impact 123 00:12:30.240 --> 00:12:39.600 on on social lives for people. I guess another question well, like did 124 00:12:39.679 --> 00:12:45.799 you ever get tired of like are figuring out a way to like even when 125 00:12:45.840 --> 00:12:50.159 your spouse was just talking about the abuse too much and needing to take like 126 00:12:50.240 --> 00:12:54.519 a mental break from that because you couldn't you know, it was it was 127 00:12:54.559 --> 00:13:01.720 a lot and it is dark. Like how would you communicate that are what 128 00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:07.440 was your way of dealing with that or what ways have you noticed other people 129 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:13.279 dealing with that? Yeah, it's in that can be challenging, right. 130 00:13:13.399 --> 00:13:18.879 So communication is is tough because, as you touched on it, the topics 131 00:13:18.919 --> 00:13:22.679 are very sensitive and you know you don't want to hear about them all in 132 00:13:22.799 --> 00:13:28.559 a lot of detail. So working on communication with your partner is is a 133 00:13:28.639 --> 00:13:33.919 really important thing that can you know some of that can come through your couple's 134 00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:41.240 counseling and you know there can be some benefit there. The challenge, I 135 00:13:41.399 --> 00:13:46.279 think, is, you know, honestly, the partners who come to the 136 00:13:46.360 --> 00:13:48.159 site. I think one of the reasons they come to the side is because 137 00:13:48.200 --> 00:13:56.039 they haven't found couple's counseling to be effective and I can echo that sentiment and 138 00:13:56.159 --> 00:14:01.320 never found it particularly effective and I'm not sure, if not sure what's going 139 00:14:01.360 --> 00:14:05.759 on with it with that, but I think you know, couple's counseling when 140 00:14:07.240 --> 00:14:13.360 you know one person is recovering from childhood sexual abuse, I think it's tough 141 00:14:13.679 --> 00:14:18.759 and I'm not I don't know if counselors are really equipped for it, but 142 00:14:18.840 --> 00:14:26.919 I know that it's it can be somewhat effective in helping with communication. But 143 00:14:26.039 --> 00:14:31.360 again, you know, with communication both parties have to be willing to work 144 00:14:31.480 --> 00:14:35.399 on it right. So you know what I have the same age of, 145 00:14:37.039 --> 00:14:39.720 you know, trying to move a string just by pushing on one end. 146 00:14:41.440 --> 00:14:43.320 You can't push a string right. Yeah, you got to pull on a 147 00:14:43.399 --> 00:14:46.799 string and so sometimes, you know, if you're trying to work on these 148 00:14:46.840 --> 00:14:52.080 things all by yourself and your partners not willing to do it, also it's 149 00:14:52.120 --> 00:14:54.559 like pushing on a string. You know you're just going to you're not going 150 00:14:54.600 --> 00:14:58.480 to make any progress. You're going to have a lot of effort but you're 151 00:14:58.480 --> 00:15:03.600 not going to make much progress. So you know, that's my experience with 152 00:15:03.679 --> 00:15:09.639 communication. It is challenging, it really is. There are strategies to to 153 00:15:09.759 --> 00:15:16.799 do better with communications, but if not, it's not a Panathea for sure. 154 00:15:18.840 --> 00:15:22.919 What are some positive things about being with survivors? Are Good things that 155 00:15:22.039 --> 00:15:28.799 people have talked about about their survivors. You know, the good things people 156 00:15:28.879 --> 00:15:35.200 talk about are, you know, sort of the resilience that they see in 157 00:15:35.240 --> 00:15:39.639 their partners. You know, the admiration for the resilience to keep working on 158 00:15:39.799 --> 00:15:46.200 things. It is admirable. It's really tough. I mean I've seen it. 159 00:15:46.639 --> 00:15:50.559 I haven't experienced it right, but I've seen recovery and what that looks 160 00:15:50.600 --> 00:15:58.480 like. It's tough and and a lot of people admire their partners resilience and 161 00:15:58.519 --> 00:16:03.720 their tenacity for working on recovery. A lot of them have a lot of 162 00:16:03.759 --> 00:16:10.120 compassion to for their partners because, you know, this abuse that happened wasn't 163 00:16:10.159 --> 00:16:15.000 their fault. They may have been taught that it was or they may think 164 00:16:15.080 --> 00:16:21.320 that it was, but it wasn't their fault. They were manipulated and abused 165 00:16:21.519 --> 00:16:26.600 and you know, it's so there's a lot of compassions there, I think, 166 00:16:26.679 --> 00:16:30.480 a lot of empathy and so, you know, those are the the 167 00:16:30.600 --> 00:16:33.759 two, I think, common things that I see and and also just you 168 00:16:33.799 --> 00:16:37.120 know, when you fall in love with someone right, you have certain things 169 00:16:37.200 --> 00:16:42.440 you admire and those are still there. The challenges is that, you know, 170 00:16:45.120 --> 00:16:48.360 if you're not able to work through the relationship issues them, those things 171 00:16:48.759 --> 00:16:56.279 he rode over time. Yeah, how do you think this is impacted your 172 00:16:56.440 --> 00:17:02.919 faith and other people's faith? I guess yeah. Well, you know, 173 00:17:03.000 --> 00:17:04.960 it's interesting when we pull faith into this because you know, some of the 174 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:11.599 the abuse happens through members of the clergy, not just Catholic priests but also 175 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:18.559 youth pastors and people like that, and when the abuses from an institution like 176 00:17:18.640 --> 00:17:25.240 that, that's pretty bad, I think. You know, for some people 177 00:17:25.440 --> 00:17:32.079 it it deepens their faith and for others it drives them away and I think 178 00:17:32.119 --> 00:17:37.599 it's a very sort of individual to the partner of the survivor on the circumstances 179 00:17:40.839 --> 00:17:45.559 about, you know, where they are and what their personal goals are, 180 00:17:45.680 --> 00:17:49.680 what their personal journey has been. And you know, for me personally, 181 00:17:52.440 --> 00:17:56.640 I leaned into my Catholicism for quite a while found a lot of solace in 182 00:17:56.720 --> 00:18:03.799 that, but over time it eroted, it really did. It eroted because, 183 00:18:06.440 --> 00:18:08.720 you know, the things that I thought were the right things to do. 184 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:14.640 You know, I did all of those and in you know, my 185 00:18:15.079 --> 00:18:18.119 particular faith, getting divorced means you're not allowed to remarry write unless you get 186 00:18:18.200 --> 00:18:23.319 this thing called an annulment, and the annulment basically says, well, never 187 00:18:23.480 --> 00:18:26.400 was a valid marriage to begin with. It's like yeah, you know, 188 00:18:26.519 --> 00:18:30.880 that just doesn't feel right. Even though you know, getting divorced, I 189 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:34.480 can't say that it was never a real marriage and never should have happened. 190 00:18:37.039 --> 00:18:40.839 So that was one of the things that's sort of chipped away at, I 191 00:18:40.920 --> 00:18:45.039 guess, my religious affiliation, but my faith, I think, is still 192 00:18:45.839 --> 00:18:49.160 very deep, because I think they're two different things. Oh mean, they 193 00:18:49.240 --> 00:18:56.759 most definitely are. Is there anything else you would like to add? You 194 00:18:56.799 --> 00:18:59.359 know, I guess I would just, you know, say that if there 195 00:18:59.480 --> 00:19:07.759 are, you know, survivors listening to this, you know, have maybe 196 00:19:07.079 --> 00:19:11.880 encourage your partner to look at the support for partners site see if there's anything, 197 00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:15.240 anything there that they think could benefit them, because it is tough on 198 00:19:15.440 --> 00:19:19.319 partners, you know. You know, if we're being asked to keep this 199 00:19:19.519 --> 00:19:25.799 a secret, then we can't talk to anybody else about it. But you 200 00:19:25.880 --> 00:19:33.200 know, the forum is it's a secure site, password protected. Every application 201 00:19:33.440 --> 00:19:37.920 is reviewed and the forums are monitored to make sure that everything's going okay. 202 00:19:40.079 --> 00:19:45.440 But you know, your partner is going to need some support and it's I 203 00:19:45.519 --> 00:19:48.680 think it's pretty rare that a partner can get through all of this without some 204 00:19:48.799 --> 00:19:53.759 support from a peer support group, either online like we have, in person, 205 00:19:53.839 --> 00:19:56.279 if you can find it, which I think is very rare, or 206 00:19:57.039 --> 00:20:02.599 with your own individual counselor but you know, for survivors, just keep that 207 00:20:02.680 --> 00:20:04.240 in mind. For your partners. They're going through a tough time and you 208 00:20:04.319 --> 00:20:07.960 know, for for partners, you know, again take a look at the 209 00:20:08.000 --> 00:20:12.759 resources out there. You know, you can look at the site, get 210 00:20:12.839 --> 00:20:18.960 your own counselor highly recommend that, but I would say you know, don't 211 00:20:18.359 --> 00:20:23.400 just sit there waiting for something to happen, because that's not how it works. 212 00:20:25.480 --> 00:20:27.319 You're going to have to go get the support and resources you need. 213 00:20:30.440 --> 00:20:34.279 Things don't just sort of get better on their own. Yes, that's very 214 00:20:34.359 --> 00:20:41.079 true. Well, thanks for coming on the show and thanks for well, 215 00:20:41.519 --> 00:20:45.279 your input, because, I mean it's it's very helpful for a lot of 216 00:20:45.319 --> 00:20:48.920 people out there that, you know, they want to help their partners and 217 00:20:48.960 --> 00:20:51.559 they're like, how do I do this? And you know, it is 218 00:20:51.640 --> 00:20:56.359 exhausting and it is it is hard, you know, it is. Yeah, 219 00:20:56.359 --> 00:21:00.599 so just you know, know that there our resources out there to help 220 00:21:00.960 --> 00:21:07.319 and you know, I even tell surveyor take advantage of them. Yeah, 221 00:21:07.599 --> 00:21:10.400 and I think the big thing, I mean I've even found it hard to 222 00:21:10.480 --> 00:21:15.400 find support groups for survivors themselves, unless they're online. Yeah, yeah, 223 00:21:15.680 --> 00:21:18.200 you can be tough. So, I mean I can't imagine trying to find 224 00:21:18.279 --> 00:21:22.359 something, you know, it's like trying to find Alanon without an a group. 225 00:21:26.000 --> 00:21:29.319 Yeah, yeah, yeah, and you know, I would love for 226 00:21:30.079 --> 00:21:34.319 more in person support groups to be available. It's just really hard to get 227 00:21:34.359 --> 00:21:40.440 those going without some you know, helped from a local provider, I think, 228 00:21:40.839 --> 00:21:45.559 or someone who can really do that. But yeah, just reach out. 229 00:21:45.799 --> 00:21:48.240 Don't don't. Don't stay by yourself. Reach out friends and family, 230 00:21:48.559 --> 00:21:53.440 counselors, support groups, things like that. Okay, all right, thanks 231 00:21:53.480 --> 00:21:56.759 Steve. All right, guys, thanks for listening to Rachel and recover. 232 00:21:56.920 --> 00:22:03.480 We've got will be up next Thursday at ten am and always follow us on 233 00:22:03.559 --> 00:22:08.400 your favorite podcast or social media platform or come to Rachel and recoverycom thanks. 234 00:22:08.799 --> 00:22:10.440 Thanks, Rachel.

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