Sex Trafficking with Dr. Stephany Powell Part 2

July 28, 2022 00:18:24
Sex Trafficking with Dr. Stephany Powell Part 2
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Sex Trafficking with Dr. Stephany Powell Part 2

Jul 28 2022 | 00:18:24

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Dr. Stephany Powell is the Vice President and Director of Law Enforcement Training and Survivor Services at National Center on Sexual Exploitation and has worked in this field for over 30 years.

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.800 --> 00:00:05.839 Hi, we're on regional and recovery with Stephanie College. She's going to tell 2 00:00:05.879 --> 00:00:18.760 the rest of her story and thanks for listening. Here she is. I 3 00:00:18.760 --> 00:00:22.079 guess we kind of talked about that. How much of it is parents selling 4 00:00:22.120 --> 00:00:29.199 their children versus children and young people being kidnapped? So I would say in 5 00:00:29.320 --> 00:00:33.240 terms of kidnapping from from a stranger, you know, the vand drives up. 6 00:00:33.840 --> 00:00:39.000 It happens, Um but I would say from what I have seen and 7 00:00:39.039 --> 00:00:44.479 read and and in the survivors that that I have dealt with, it's probably 8 00:00:44.479 --> 00:00:51.240 about one one to two as it pertains to a stranger. Um, I 9 00:00:51.280 --> 00:00:57.840 would say that when it comes the majority of victims and human trafficking, their 10 00:00:57.920 --> 00:01:02.240 trafficker is someone that they know, and that includes a parent. So that 11 00:01:02.280 --> 00:01:03.519 could be a parent, it could be a boyfriend, it could be a 12 00:01:03.519 --> 00:01:11.000 teacher, it could be someone in their life that has entered their life that 13 00:01:11.159 --> 00:01:18.519 either has a place of power or some type of influence or that they see 14 00:01:18.519 --> 00:01:25.319 as an influence that um or has positioned their self in a place of power 15 00:01:25.439 --> 00:01:27.920 that that they are afraid to leave or they are afraid to tell on. 16 00:01:30.120 --> 00:01:34.280 That is the most common yeah, Um, I mean I guess and how 17 00:01:34.359 --> 00:01:41.079 much you know how much of this is recorded in like like in the porno 18 00:01:41.480 --> 00:01:49.879 child pornography is or is that an entirely? Are they related? Or there 19 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:57.760 is some there can be some intersectionality of that. So, Um, I'll 20 00:01:57.799 --> 00:02:01.519 just give you an example. When we think of BNOGRAPHY as a whole and 21 00:02:01.719 --> 00:02:08.639 same thing, people will watch pornography and just assume that everyone that they see 22 00:02:08.680 --> 00:02:14.280 on that screen is there because they want to be there. Well, I 23 00:02:14.360 --> 00:02:17.800 have talked to victims of human trafficking that have said that they have been forced 24 00:02:17.879 --> 00:02:27.560 into pornography by their pimps as another way of making money. So you can 25 00:02:27.599 --> 00:02:31.319 imagine if that's what's happening with adults, you know the same thing. It's 26 00:02:31.360 --> 00:02:38.719 got to be happening with children. So there is an intersectionality now, and 27 00:02:38.199 --> 00:02:45.240 does not mean that every victim of human trafficking is forced into pornography. That's 28 00:02:45.280 --> 00:02:50.919 not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that, Um, the two 29 00:02:51.039 --> 00:02:59.800 can intersect one another, just like labor trafficking can intersect human trafficking. So 30 00:03:00.319 --> 00:03:04.319 because you have sex trafficking, you have labor trafficking, and so at times 31 00:03:04.840 --> 00:03:10.240 there have been situations where, Um, the two can intersect. Okay, 32 00:03:10.400 --> 00:03:15.599 I mean that makes a son of sense. Um, what advice which you 33 00:03:15.680 --> 00:03:23.800 give survivors? The the advice that I would give to survivors is to say 34 00:03:24.560 --> 00:03:30.280 that it is very understandable. People will say, well, why don't they 35 00:03:30.319 --> 00:03:32.919 just leave? Why don't they just leave, especially if they're an adult? 36 00:03:34.199 --> 00:03:38.199 Why don't they leave? Why is it that a victim of human trafficking could 37 00:03:38.199 --> 00:03:40.759 go from state to state, be are on an airplane, passed by a 38 00:03:40.840 --> 00:03:45.520 police station and they don't go in and they don't tell? And what people 39 00:03:45.599 --> 00:03:51.520 need to understand is that there is a uh, an emotional bond that forms, 40 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:55.240 there is a fear factor. When you look at people say the same 41 00:03:55.280 --> 00:03:59.719 thing about victims of domestic violence. Well, why does that she just leave? 42 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:04.240 There's several reasons right why she doesn't leave, and so those same Um 43 00:04:04.919 --> 00:04:11.599 uh reasons are the reasons why the victim of human trafficking doesn't leave. I 44 00:04:11.680 --> 00:04:16.399 wanted to say that all first so that I so that the audience understands, 45 00:04:16.439 --> 00:04:23.319 so that I can say this. Please know that there are there's hotlines. 46 00:04:24.360 --> 00:04:29.399 Law Enforcement now has a better understanding than when I was on the force of 47 00:04:29.439 --> 00:04:34.319 what human trafficking victims are and what they go through. Um, there are 48 00:04:34.480 --> 00:04:42.439 so many entities. Um Doctors, emergency room doctors have been informed. There's 49 00:04:42.519 --> 00:04:48.439 so many entities and ways and hotlines that you can call when you think it's 50 00:04:48.439 --> 00:04:55.319 safe enough for you to get away, because please know that there are nonprofit 51 00:04:55.519 --> 00:05:01.360 organizations and people that will be able to support you and help you and give 52 00:05:01.519 --> 00:05:08.920 you, Um uh, the support that you need to not only get away, 53 00:05:08.959 --> 00:05:13.680 but be able to help you with your own strength so that you don't 54 00:05:13.680 --> 00:05:19.240 ever have to go back. We believe you and I think a lot of 55 00:05:20.040 --> 00:05:30.439 survivors need that support and need to hear that, because trauma bonds are very, 56 00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:35.600 very difficult to break. Absolutely, absolutely, and I say the same 57 00:05:35.639 --> 00:05:43.000 thing to family. Understand that, and I say this to people who are 58 00:05:43.000 --> 00:05:47.279 working in nonprofits. I have to say to myself that you'll help somebody get 59 00:05:47.319 --> 00:05:54.160 out and because of the trauma bond, they may go back, but what 60 00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:59.600 they need to understand is that you are going to be there and your door 61 00:05:59.839 --> 00:06:02.839 is going to be open for every time they go and come back. Go 62 00:06:02.920 --> 00:06:09.120 and come back. I think the number is something like six or seven times 63 00:06:09.879 --> 00:06:15.240 where they will leave and come back. So to those family members, and 64 00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:19.959 friends that want to support someone who may be stuck in this life. Just 65 00:06:20.160 --> 00:06:25.319 know they may go and come back, go and come back. They need 66 00:06:25.399 --> 00:06:30.439 your support to know that every time they come back you will be open because 67 00:06:30.480 --> 00:06:38.279 you understand the impact of trauma bond and they're afraid. They're afraid for you, 68 00:06:39.399 --> 00:06:45.120 they're afraid for themselves. Yeah, I mean I think the first time 69 00:06:45.160 --> 00:06:51.639 I truly understood trauma bonds was when I was watching an episode of Grey's anatomy 70 00:06:51.680 --> 00:06:59.399 and the little girl had been kidnapped and she missed her kidnapper sometimes because of 71 00:07:00.000 --> 00:07:02.680 a bond that that you know, watching TV together or you know, doing 72 00:07:02.720 --> 00:07:11.639 fun things together, having that relationship and Um, no, it's a huge 73 00:07:13.519 --> 00:07:17.680 the thing that I feel I until you've lived it or at least you know 74 00:07:17.920 --> 00:07:26.319 maybe more communications about understanding trauma bonds, that's probably one of the most difficult 75 00:07:26.360 --> 00:07:30.319 things for people to wrap their heads around until they've experienced it or at least 76 00:07:30.800 --> 00:07:40.600 heard about it and tried to understand it absolutely. Uh, and see. 77 00:07:40.639 --> 00:07:45.240 What advice would you like to give to their family and family and friends who 78 00:07:45.240 --> 00:07:48.000 are trying to be supportive or, you know, want to be supportive, 79 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:56.720 but they're really at a loss. You know, that is such a hard 80 00:07:56.759 --> 00:08:03.160 one because when you really love someone and right uh, and you see that 81 00:08:03.079 --> 00:08:09.199 they are living, Um, in a situation that could eventually hurt them or 82 00:08:09.279 --> 00:08:13.680 kill them, and you want them out, and you see that they're going 83 00:08:13.800 --> 00:08:18.600 back and forth, it makes it so hard, Um, but they need 84 00:08:18.680 --> 00:08:22.759 you to believe in them and they need you, as frustrating as it will 85 00:08:22.800 --> 00:08:26.600 be, to keep your door open for them, because it is frustrating. 86 00:08:28.279 --> 00:08:33.000 I think it's important, um, we talked about therapy. I think it's 87 00:08:33.039 --> 00:08:37.399 important for those family members to get their own therapy as well, so that 88 00:08:37.480 --> 00:08:43.720 they also can remain strong and they will also know what to do when they 89 00:08:43.720 --> 00:08:50.000 are dealing with someone who is, uh, trauma bond or emotionally bond, 90 00:08:50.279 --> 00:08:54.080 right, because they have to take care of themselves as well. So I 91 00:08:54.240 --> 00:09:01.720 just say keep supporting, keep loving that person, no matter how hard it 92 00:09:01.759 --> 00:09:05.879 gets, because they need you, because when they don't have you and they 93 00:09:05.919 --> 00:09:11.480 don't have anybody, they just stay. And because also, I want to 94 00:09:11.480 --> 00:09:16.799 add to that, what that trafficker is telling them. Your mother doesn't care 95 00:09:16.840 --> 00:09:22.039 about you, your father doesn't care about you. You go ahead and go 96 00:09:22.120 --> 00:09:24.639 over to them, but all they're gonna do is just throw you out because 97 00:09:24.639 --> 00:09:28.720 they don't have any use for you, and so you don't want to help 98 00:09:28.720 --> 00:09:37.080 play out that false scenario that that trafficker is setting. I guess. I 99 00:09:37.120 --> 00:09:43.559 guess with that. How would it for family and friends to have healthy boundaries 100 00:09:43.840 --> 00:09:50.840 with the person that's been trafficked, you know, for their own safety, 101 00:09:50.879 --> 00:09:54.080 in their own because, I mean that affects of family. How do you 102 00:09:54.240 --> 00:10:00.960 manage that dynamic? I think you have to, you know, and that's 103 00:10:01.080 --> 00:10:05.000 that's an individual thing, but I think boundaries definitely have to be set. 104 00:10:05.399 --> 00:10:11.559 So in in in loving this person and supporting them, boundaries absolutely have to 105 00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:16.440 be set. If them coming over to the house is unsafe, maybe it 106 00:10:16.519 --> 00:10:20.919 might be a situation where you're gonna have to meet them somewhere, you know 107 00:10:20.919 --> 00:10:26.240 what I mean. Um, so, uh, it might be a situation 108 00:10:26.360 --> 00:10:31.480 where, Um, you don't give them money, but you may provide them 109 00:10:31.519 --> 00:10:37.559 food. So you just have to set the boundaries that are going to be 110 00:10:37.679 --> 00:10:45.039 safe for the family member and that are going to be safe and helpful to 111 00:10:45.120 --> 00:10:48.759 the family member that's coming for help. It's kind of like the person who 112 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:54.639 is suffering from alcoholism, right. You know, it's just the same. 113 00:10:54.879 --> 00:11:01.759 You've got to set boundaries. You got to set boundaries. I think that 114 00:11:01.879 --> 00:11:05.320 would be really difficult as a parent or as a you know, you see 115 00:11:05.320 --> 00:11:13.480 somebody that's hurting so much and just trying to figure out how to manage, 116 00:11:13.399 --> 00:11:18.399 you know, boundaries with I think what I think, what adds to that 117 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:24.919 is, again, there are several nonprofits that are out there that can also 118 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:30.679 help the family members get through this and be able to sit down with the 119 00:11:30.720 --> 00:11:35.279 survivor and the family. So there is additional help that is out there that 120 00:11:35.480 --> 00:11:41.840 is specific to this issue. Okay, I mean that's that's super helpful, 121 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:45.600 because I can't imagine what the toll it takes on the family as well. 122 00:11:46.039 --> 00:11:52.519 A huge toll. Um. What do you do for self care in your 123 00:11:52.600 --> 00:11:58.679 line of work? Huh, probably not enough. I'm always being told that. 124 00:11:58.600 --> 00:12:03.759 Um, yeah, probably not enough. What I what I started doing, 125 00:12:03.799 --> 00:12:07.960 though, I'm kind of proud of myself, is that I've started setting 126 00:12:07.960 --> 00:12:15.399 boundaries. Uh So, it used to be, and I kid you not, 127 00:12:15.679 --> 00:12:20.279 I was on this phone ringing in the middle of nine. I'm answering 128 00:12:20.320 --> 00:12:22.840 it. I'm trying to help. When I'm not working, I'm thinking of 129 00:12:22.919 --> 00:12:26.840 ways that I of things I could be doing, or I would even find 130 00:12:26.879 --> 00:12:31.960 myself, you know, enjoying something and going like wait a minute, I 131 00:12:31.000 --> 00:12:35.559 need to be thinking about so and so because she so I had to stop 132 00:12:35.600 --> 00:12:39.799 doing that and I started to go like, okay, if I am off 133 00:12:39.879 --> 00:12:46.600 or I am on vacation, I'm not gonna read anything on human trafficking, 134 00:12:46.759 --> 00:12:54.840 I am not going to look at my emails. So, Um, I 135 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:58.879 probably could get better, but I have started at least not looking at my 136 00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:05.559 emails all my all my days off or um, or trying not to answer 137 00:13:05.600 --> 00:13:09.639 the phone unless it's an an absolute emergency. So I'm working on it. 138 00:13:09.879 --> 00:13:13.279 I know what to tell other people, though. Well, do you do 139 00:13:13.440 --> 00:13:20.440 hiking or you know, I actually I, Um, I exercise, so 140 00:13:20.559 --> 00:13:24.799 that's been really good. Exercise have been has been great. I've been on 141 00:13:24.840 --> 00:13:31.279 the TREADMILL, Um, I've I've been doing that. So I've been exercising, 142 00:13:31.759 --> 00:13:37.480 I've been eating right. Um, I have horses, so I've been 143 00:13:37.919 --> 00:13:41.519 been riding them. And then, you know what I've doing? been doing 144 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:48.600 too. It's just really pausing where I do absolutely nothing and just free my 145 00:13:48.759 --> 00:13:52.679 brain and relax. So, yes, thank you for reminding me. See, 146 00:13:54.559 --> 00:13:58.919 you had to remind me hey. I mean, I think anybody that 147 00:13:58.039 --> 00:14:05.559 does anything with this level of trauma, I think self care is, you 148 00:14:05.600 --> 00:14:07.960 know, essential. I mean it's the only way to get through of it, 149 00:14:07.039 --> 00:14:13.279 because it can just eat you alive, so to speak, without you 150 00:14:13.399 --> 00:14:16.240 even knowing that it's eating you alive. Yeah, now it's it can be 151 00:14:16.360 --> 00:14:26.399 very emotionally and physically mentally exhausting. Absolutely. Okay, Um, how has 152 00:14:26.440 --> 00:14:35.159 this impacted your faith? I'll tell you. I think it's impact in my 153 00:14:35.440 --> 00:14:41.000 faith in a in a good way, and that it has strengthened it. 154 00:14:41.039 --> 00:14:48.480 And how it is strengthened? It is, um through me praying for those 155 00:14:48.559 --> 00:14:54.480 that you know, I work with. But, interesting enough, it is 156 00:14:54.519 --> 00:15:01.000 strengthened it through the survivors, the I've worked through, worked with, and 157 00:15:01.240 --> 00:15:09.799 their faith, watching their faith in God, watching their faith in relying on 158 00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:16.200 God to get them through it. And so when my faith would either be, 159 00:15:18.039 --> 00:15:22.240 that is being weak, not being where it needs to be, I 160 00:15:22.440 --> 00:15:30.840 gathered from those that I'm helping them and watching their strength, and some of 161 00:15:30.879 --> 00:15:35.080 that strength may even come from a spiritual aspect from them where they may not 162 00:15:35.120 --> 00:15:39.960 be going to church, but they really still believe that there's a higher power. 163 00:15:41.519 --> 00:15:46.559 And so watching. That really reminds me. Okay, Stephanie, you 164 00:15:46.600 --> 00:15:50.360 know where your your your faith level is. You know you need to kick 165 00:15:50.399 --> 00:15:56.480 it up a little bit, Girl. So, uh, that's how it 166 00:15:56.559 --> 00:16:00.679 has impacted there. Okay, is there anything else you like to add that 167 00:16:00.759 --> 00:16:06.600 I didn't talk about? I didn't address? I think you addressed everything and 168 00:16:06.639 --> 00:16:12.879 you asked great questions. All Right, Um, I think that's it. 169 00:16:14.120 --> 00:16:18.720 Um. So, thank you, Stephanie, for being on our show and 170 00:16:18.799 --> 00:16:22.240 telling us all about sex trafficking and, Um, hopefully this can help some 171 00:16:22.360 --> 00:16:29.039 listeners who, you know, have either been through sex trafficking or, Um, 172 00:16:29.120 --> 00:16:33.759 anybody that's working in the field with victims. So are anybody just to 173 00:16:33.879 --> 00:16:41.399 be aware of sex trafficking. So thank you so much for inviting me and 174 00:16:41.480 --> 00:16:45.440 thank you so much for caring enough to put on this type of show. 175 00:16:47.559 --> 00:16:52.639 I'm a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, not trafficking, but that's a lot 176 00:16:52.679 --> 00:16:56.679 of the reason I do this is because I know there's so many people out 177 00:16:56.679 --> 00:17:03.360 there who it takes a lot of courage to get better and it takes a 178 00:17:03.399 --> 00:17:10.480 lot of, you know, strength to do recovery, because it's not for 179 00:17:10.519 --> 00:17:14.559 the week. I know so many people that they're not willing to do the 180 00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:18.200 work to get better, but it will impact their lives as long as they 181 00:17:18.240 --> 00:17:26.200 don't get help. But the one thing about recovery that I've learned a lot 182 00:17:26.319 --> 00:17:30.960 recently you pretty much have to be willing to risk losing everything in order to 183 00:17:30.039 --> 00:17:41.920 get better, and that's terrifying. I agree. Same Thing for victims of 184 00:17:42.000 --> 00:17:48.359 human trafficing. So Um. For All those who are survivors, keep working 185 00:17:48.400 --> 00:17:52.359 at it, whether it's new treatments, new, you know, support groups, 186 00:17:53.039 --> 00:17:57.079 uh, and just, you know, take care of yourselves out there. 187 00:17:57.720 --> 00:18:03.160 So Um. All right, and I think that's it, guys. 188 00:18:03.640 --> 00:18:07.799 See you guys next Thursday. Listen to us on your favorite podcast or social 189 00:18:07.799 --> 00:18:12.759 media platform and, as always, uh, if you have any questions, 190 00:18:12.799 --> 00:18:18.200 reach out on social media or on Rachel and Recovery Dot Com. Thanks for listening.

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